I work in a medium sized company with many young professionals about the same age as myself. During a recent work happy hour, I began chatting with a coworker who got married about a month before I did. In no time, we had gone down the rabbit hole of wedding details… what the weather was like, how the food tasted, which family member drove us bananas, what went wrong, what went right… and the stress.
Now that I am finally out of the world of wedding planning, I have a clearer perspective of the amount of stress I was actually dealing with. It’s honestly insane. When it comes to weddings, you are not just dealing with logistics of planning a big party. You’re also dealing with expectations that may differ from yours and old family dynamics that you can’t quite escape. Additionally there’s the whole money aspect of this and how freaking expensive it is even to have just a small wedding. You’re also making so many decisions. And people want to see and spend time with you. And, you’re about to mesh your life with someone else’s. Honestly, I could keep going on about the list of things that add stress to this time in your life… but I’ll end it here…
Anyways, I get it. You’re sick of hearing me harp on the stress (I’m sick of it too). But, here is something I can’t help but think about. The amount of brain space I have now is amazing. I’m not exhausted 24/7, I feel like I can think straight and no longer have a to-do list that spans multiple pages of a notebook monopolizing my time. There’s no doubt in my mind that my cortisol levels (a.k.a. the stress hormone) must have been through the roof. I think that explains my many failed attempts to give up booze and sugar prior to the wedding too (cortisol makes you crave sugar like its going out of style). I feel lighter and happier to have so much off my plate now. Though I wouldn’t change anything about my wedding, I am so happy not to be planning it anymore.
It really is amazing what you can do when significant stress is removed from your life. For one, I have finally been able to kick my daily wine habit. After returning from mini-mooning in Mexico, I actually stopped drinking and gave up coffee for about four weeks. Though I am indulging now, I am keeping coffee to one a day and wine just to the weekends. And it’s taking no effort at all. If it wasn’t for my birthday a few weeks ago, I could have said I’ve given up cake too, but I simply can’t let my birthday go by without Funfetti Cupcakes.
I couldn’t help but notice how easy it was for me to give up booze and caffeine post wedding. I’ve also noticed my motivation and momentum for keeping up my workouts has been going strong. For most of October, I kept up 5-6 workouts per week. With that being said, I now feel like I have a new opportunity here. I feel like I have the brain space, energy and time to take on a new goal that would push me further than before. Maybe I should work on some small gym goals like being able to do a pull up (which my noodle arms still can’t quite do). Maybe it’s time to train for another half marathon and try to establish a new personal best. I’m not quite sure. But I simply can’t help but think about how much more I may be able to achieve. This is super exciting.
So, on my next post, I hope to have a new, ambitious goals to tell you about. There’s really no better time than the present, right? I can’t wait to see what this little non-athletic body can do… Stay tuned!